Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Decisions, decisions...

Thank you for all the sweet comments on the sneak peak yesterday. I promise to post more pictures about it tomorrow. But today I need a little personal help.

As many of you may already know I have major baby fever! The hubby and I have talked about it ALOT lately and one of the biggest concerns is whether I stay home or not when we have kids. It's a constant battle between the two of us. When it happens, what do we have to do, what sacrifices will we have to make...you name it its been brought up.

So for the moms, moms-to-be, or even those thinking about kids, what helped you decide whether you stayed home or not? How did you make it work? What were some of your concerns? Please help me out! If you feel more comfortable commenting through email you can do so at drlenz08@yahoo.com. All help is greatly appreciated!



the mcquire family said...

I think the biggest decision maker for us was money. If you can afford to stay home and still have a lifestyle that you and your husband are comfortable with then go for it. I will say that while I wouldn't trade one minute that I get to spend with Belle. There are definite times and moments of missing having a job and an identity of my own. It's an adjustment all the way around when you have a baby. I think you have to be really honest financially & figure out if you guys can make the sacrifice of losing an income or not. Either way, you will be amazing parents and that baby will be so very blessed. I come from a family having two parents that always worked full time and I am just as close to my mom and dad as my friends who had parents that stayed home. Don't give yourself guilt or beat yourself up if you guys decide that you as a working mom is a better plan. Staying home is great and I feel blessed by it, but it needs to be the right thing for you and your husband.

Hope this helps! Email me anytime...sorry for the novel. Lots of love sweet girl! xoxo

B said...

My husband and I had the very same discussion just last night. Think we'll wait til the time comes to figure it out. I feel like there are A LOT of sahm's these days, which is great! I hope that we will be able to do it, but will want to be able to live comfortably as well. it will all work out!

P.S. do you have an announcement ;)

The Rogerson Family said...

While I love my son and spending time with is one of the most rewarding things. I have to say it is nice to have that time way.

He will be a year in 18 days and I still struggle with the SAHM decision. While it is hard in the beginning it does get easier. The days I struggle when I pick him up from the sitters I realize how much he thrives off the interaction of the other kiddos there and how much loves Mrs. Wendy.

We decided to find someone that watches kids vs. an actual daycare. There is more one on one action, cost benefits, less illness.

From my experience don't make a decision until you have gone back to work for couple months. Your hormone levels are still out of whack from everything that you soon will find the answer. Remember being a SAHM does not have to a right away decision!

You know where to find me if you have any specific questions.

Stephanie said...

So, we are actively trying to make a baby and have had many conversations. I always envisioned myself as a SAHM. My mom was not and while we're super close, I feel like she missed a lot (she couldn't be a room mom, she didn't go on field trips, she didn't visit me to have lunch) Obviously everything I missed out on was while I was in school and not a baby/toddler. We would have to make MAJOR sacrifices to live off just the hub's income AND with my current employer, they have a preschool that takes 1+ and I would get a 40% discount from if I continue working here so more than likely when the time comes I'll take my 12 weeks maternity leave, try to work out with my boss any possible fewer than 40 work hours (even if it means slightly less pay) and have someone watch the babe in their home the first year. Then, if I'm able to make it all work, once they turn a year they'll come to the preschool on campus with me. And either by the time baby #2 rolls around OR baby #1 is school aged, I'll be able to be a SAHM full time or at least part time to be active in baby #1's school life.

Hubs has one more year before he is professionally licensed for his career which will allow him to make more money, but we didn't want to wait until then to start trying.

No matter what, I second the others. You'll have a very blessed and love baby :)

allie-mac-fallie said...

I wish that I had an answer for you... I agree with what all others have said. Honestly- i plan on working at least for the first year or so. I have always wanted to be a SAHM but really, it would not be too smart for us financially right now. There is always time to go back to that. Just remember that you can always change your mind and it is not something that you have to decide (in stone) before you start trying... :) I think most importantly do what you feel God is calling you to do.

The Crazy Castros said...

hello sweet girl, I am a working mama. I work as an L and D nurse three days/week. I am also a Scentsy consultant. I love my job and I LOVE my babes. I have three babes 9, 5, and 3. I have always worked. I am now in a different season of my life and yes the plan is for me to stay home soon. I am so excited and I believe it is time. My parents (angels walking the earth)watch my babes for us. I feel sooo balanced and sooo happy. The decision will be between you and your hubby. Another thought is sometimes if you budget things just right sometimes it is cheaper to stay home. Whatever you decide it will PERFECT for your family. HELEN (maria)

kate said...

Being a nanny I have be able to witness many types of parenting styles and choices. I could sit here and give you a million reasons to stay home and a million reasons to work, however, the bottom line is that every family is different and there is no "right" choice. You have to do what is right for you and your family. With that said I do have a few pieces of advice to give you based on what I have witnessed over the years: There are tons fabulous stay at home mom's out there but there are tons of no so good ones as well (Yes i have seen both), staying home doesn't mean you are good mom, everyone has to commit fully to being a great parent no matter the work situation. Also...all of the working mothers that I know are amazing moms, some get a bad rap for choosing to work (some chose to and some are forced by circumstance) but they are all really happy and have great families. Ok one last thing (promise lol): Remember nothing is set in stone, you can always try something out and if it's not working for your family you can always chose a different path. Ok finally done ;) Good luck!


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